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I am a younger sister in the household and I am gu...

2012-01-06T21:02:25.962+08:00

I am a younger sister in the household and I am guilty to admit that I am stubborn like that too. My family will always complain that I am not home often and they never get to know what I am doing outside of the house. I act in this way because most of the time, I feel neglected and unloved because I am constantly compared to my older sister. It sucks even more that my older sister is older, more mature and totally independent, so obviously, more favored.
Maybe you can start by showing more care to her, and don't be impatient, because I believe that stubbornness is just a shield that she is putting on. As time goes, she probably will let you into her life bit my bit.

2012-01-06T21:01:45.314+08:00

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cheer up! :)

2011-12-28T13:25:32.216+08:00

cheer up! :)

Hayley, cheer up!! :) I've always thought Jayl...

2011-12-24T20:20:11.327+08:00

Hayley, cheer up!! :) I've always thought Jayley is more sensible than you... but i doubt so now.. since her boyfriend's Edwin. I'm not trying to say anything about Edwin... i just think he's not matured enough too.

hi there's up and lows in every relationship b...

2011-12-23T16:29:01.438+08:00

hi there's up and lows in every relationship but everyone will always realixe that only blood related people will never turn their backs on you. i think she will realize that and please still feel blessed, i have two sisters and they're twins, they are soso close i wish i had a twin too, so cherish your twinnie, talk to her about how you feel and cheer up :)

hi stitchy, actions speaks louder then words... i ...

2011-12-23T14:13:20.953+08:00

hi stitchy, actions speaks louder then words... i think from her actions she still do care for you.. like instances when she confront your bf when you all quarrel.. she is going through a period of new found fame and new found famous bf... hard on her... give her some time to find herself in this new platform.. she does care but doesn't say... truth is, she is still young... like you... usually after people start working and face the world, the cruel real world, then will bond better with siblings and family as you will know they mean the world to you.. time will tell... have faith in her..

dont be sad dear. i feel like crying when i read y...

2011-12-23T14:01:29.662+08:00

dont be sad dear. i feel like crying when i read your post because i feel it. <3

Hello! I can assure you 100% she still loves you. ...

2011-12-21T22:45:27.881+08:00

Hello! I can assure you 100% she still loves you. Maybe she's going through a phase or just wants to branch out on her own. Show her some support. It's kind of an Inbuilt thing for people to always turn to family first. Give her some time and space and she will turn back to you. She still loves you maybe she wants to try something new. Will pray for you and know that you have many other friends and family you can count on :) <3

Hey , she will be back soon alright , i have a twi...

2011-12-20T21:20:59.759+08:00

Hey , she will be back soon alright , i have a twin too , he's a guy and i'm a girl , wuarreling and beating up each other is th only way we communicate , well , t be honest , both of our situation is like 90% th same. Cheerup and kan kai yi dian alrights !(: Takecare.

Hi hayley , don't be too sad ~ Why not cheer y...

2011-12-20T16:53:05.336+08:00

Hi hayley , don't be too sad ~
Why not cheer yourself up by adding another soft toy to your collection ? I saw a Scrump Soft toy @ Sengkang @ $18 only (: Its quite big too ! (:
I thought of you when i saw it ! Since you're such a stitch loverr ! (:

Xoxo

with nuffnang and ads, every blogs are commerciali...

2011-12-20T16:30:32.469+08:00

with nuffnang and ads, every blogs are commercialized in a way or another. i'm all up for bloggers using blogs as a tool to earn some money. it's just that i think most blogs are too impersonal. it might be good that this blog still has a little personal touch.

to blue: very true. she can blog whatever she wan...

2011-12-20T16:20:04.680+08:00

to blue:

very true. she can blog whatever she want. but since her blog allows public to comment so i can comment whatever i want too.

i understand that she values the relationship with her sister but i think her way of handling is wrong. especially so when she claims that sister is the strongheaded kind.

my sister and i have our own share of disagreements as well. we hit and scream at each other over the smallest issues. but at the end of the day, someone has to set things right and say sorry first. even though you might not have been the one who's at fault.

if that person really meant something to you, you will do anything to get him/her back. making time for that person even if he/she is busy. you definetly have to put in effort.

anyway i am not judging whether she put in the effort or not. i wish her all the best for reconciliation.

on a side note, please do not be so naive. most successful blogs are commercialized, i challenge you to find a blogger who does it for "passion" and not for money. (unless maybe he/she is rich and just wants to be famous)

i totally wanted to start tearing up when i read t...

2011-12-20T15:20:27.515+08:00

i totally wanted to start tearing up when i read this post. i can TOTALLY relate to that . but trust me , i have a siblings relationship with my sister WAY WAY WORSE than what you are facing now . i know "cheerup" doesnt work .
because sometimes, you might really need to take the first step , tear down the mask you have been putting on everyday. bring yourself to talk to her abt everything and how you feel . whether it ends up with you crying and tearing up just to tell her , just do it . jiaqi have feelings too . i believe she'll understand you if you really open up to her. i know its difficult and awkward to do so . but probably thats the only way to pull this relationship back . i've been through all these. but i am the younger one . i am one year younger than her and is 16 this year. all the best hayley ! <3

http://ohsofickle.blogspot.com/2011/12/wordy.html#...

2011-12-20T15:01:12.096+08:00

http://ohsofickle.blogspot.com/2011/12/wordy.html#comments

does that construe as "washing dirty linen"?? i don't think so. bloggers who pen down their real feelings in a blog are getting rarer. and the readers who commented in tammy's blog can relate to her story and it inspire them. so instead of telling ppl not to wash their dirty linen in public, why not see this blog entry as a reminder to everyone that we should cherish kinship and applaud these bloggers for their courage to share their feelings with readers

to the above anonymous, this is utter rubbish. it&...

2011-12-20T14:51:02.883+08:00

to the above anonymous, this is utter rubbish. it's her blog, it's her space. so she can blog whatever she want. and she did not even list out specifically what are the "dirty linen". she merely generally talk about this issue as a whole.

also, this is what make her blog special. a lot of blogs have been commercialized. very few bloggers would pen down their true or inner thoughts in a blog anymore. so the fact that she do so, this makes her blog special and different from other "super commercialized and lack of feeling's blog"

Have you heard of the idiom, "do not wash you...

2011-12-20T09:14:43.579+08:00

Have you heard of the idiom, "do not wash your dirty linen in public"?

I don't see how things can improve between you and your sister by blogging.

Save your sister some face.

heyyy there cheer up!! although i don't have ...

2011-12-19T23:55:36.242+08:00

heyyy there cheer up!!

although i don't have a twin sister, but i do have a friend who's been by my side at the lowest point of my life. she's even closer to me than my brother is. we've talked the whole night through, and she was the only one on my side when all my friends were not, like seriously, all of them. we've cried together, laughed together and there were absolutely no secrets.

we were in the same cca, and because of a guy, i left the cca. she was really angry with me, even though she didn't say it. and afterwards, she just stopped talking to me. and i never made any effort to talk to her. we'd indirectly talk about each other on facebook, complain to friends. but we still wouldn't confront each other about it. so now, it's too late for any of us to reconcil again.

i know it's different cz you guys are sisters. but i'd like to advice that no matter what happens, however angry and frustrated you are with her, try to talk it out with her. or one day, when the damage is too huge, you will really regret it, i'm pretty sure.

take care and i hope you return to your cheerful side soon! <3

to be honest as a younger sister. there's 2 po...

2011-12-19T23:32:25.945+08:00

to be honest as a younger sister. there's 2 possible reactions from her. 1) she'll feel guilty and want to become that little sis of yours.. 2) she'll get annoyed that you put your family matters up and feel really irritated.

at some point of time i was like that too. i didn't felt the need to reply when my parents are talking to me. and similar to jayley i have that the more you boss me around the more i want to rebel attitude. even though i know it's unnecessary and feel really guilty afterward i can't help it.. i don't know why.. but i eventually grew out of it..
at some point of time she'll realize her family is much more important to her.
cheer up! (:

frankly speaking, it's hard for your sis to ch...

2011-12-19T19:34:40.189+08:00

frankly speaking, it's hard for your sis to change when her bf is edwin. he is simply too immature. as much as ppl wanna say not to judge a book by its cover, i've seen a lot of ppl like him in my life. from the way he blog and behave such a wannabe in photo, it is obvious he is not mature enough to lead your sis to care more about her family. edwin is still at the rebellious stage and doesn't even heel his parent's positive advice, how can he be someone mature?

Whenever I request/want her to do something, she w...

2011-12-19T19:25:13.510+08:00

Whenever I request/want her to do something, she won't be like the typical sister you commonly see along the street. What she will tell you is this:
"The more you want me to do something, the more I won't do it", at the totally inappropriate timings.

omg! if i were u, i would totally feel like slapping her all the time! she's so annoying! i remember watching your sis and u on hotseat and i thought that she must be the more sensible one. but hell no, looks and appearance is deceiving. i am sort of like you. sometime in public, the way i behave is not my true character at all.

on the appearance i might be happy and all, but deep down i've been trying to hard to prove myself. e.g. studied hard and manage to get into a local uni. Just to tell you that i've been a silent reader of yours and sometime i feel you when u mention that people are always comparing your sis and you. cos i know that deep down in our heart, there is always a neverending struggle trying to prove ourselves

I've got 2 bigger sis and we never talk at all. it's kinda hard to imagine, but it's true. we were like strangers. my elder sis and my 2nd sis are always going out together having fun etc. and i'm always the one being left out. so i kinda envy your sis and you when you girls get to hang out together. that is something my sis and me will never do. so... since u're the more sensible one, dont give up and try to improve the r/s with your sis. treasure what u had =D one day she'll change for the better

cheer up. sometimes we don't always get what ...

2011-12-19T18:51:27.235+08:00

cheer up.

sometimes we don't always get what we want. i have 2 sisters and i'm not close to them thanks to having complete and different personalities. even though sisters are from same family and same upbringing, character still will differ even if you two are twins.

what matters is that you do what is right, and hope some day she will change too :)

Hey there (: cheer up! I totally get the part abou...

2011-12-19T16:28:18.718+08:00

Hey there (: cheer up!
I totally get the part about respecting our parents. Cause my younger sister doesn't know what is respect at all! She treats her boyfriend first and family next, and my parents feel it too, just imagine how hurt they are!
I'm giving her time to mature, let's hope time can correct them.
Cheer up and God bless (:

People change, people evolve... ALL THE TIME... Es...

2011-12-19T03:44:20.355+08:00

People change, people evolve... ALL THE TIME... Especially now, since she has more things on her plate... Everyone wants to have an individual identity, why do you want to make her similar to you?

However, I do agree with you that family comes first... But, have you ever consider that maybe your maturity is the result of you having an older boyfriend? Do not dismiss her actions as wrong or immature, she is just being 19/20...

Hey, cheer up alright! <3

2011-12-19T02:56:03.504+08:00

Hey, cheer up alright! <3